February 9th, 1964. A Sunday evening in New York City. Behind a heavy velvet curtain on the stage of a theater on Broadway, a 62-year-old man in a dark suit is standing perfectly still. His hands are folded in front of him. His face shows nothing. 3 m in front of that curtain, on the other side of it, 728 people are screaming so loudly that the studio engineers will later say the sound meters in the control room jumped past the red line and stayed there.
And in living rooms across America, 73 million people, more than will later watch the first man walk on the moon, are sitting in front of their television sets, waiting. They are waiting for him, the man behind the curtain. He does not smile. He does not stretch. He does not check his hair. He simply stands there, listening to the noise on the other side of the fabric.
And somewhere in the small private theater behind his eyes, he is thinking about how to walk out and say four words that will change American popular music forever. The four words are, “Ladies and gentlemen, the Beatles.” His name is Ed Sullivan. And here is the strangest thing about the man you are about to meet.
Critics laughed at him for 16 years before that night. They said he could not sing. They said he could not dance. They said he could not even read his own cue cards without mispronouncing the names. One famous comedian joked that Ed Sullivan was the only host on television who looked like he had been embalmed before the broadcast.
Another said his face had three expressions, and two of them were the same. They mocked the way he stood. They mocked the way he spoke. They wrote, year after year, that he could not possibly last. He lasted 23 years. He outlasted them all. He outlasted vaudeville. He outlasted the great age of radio. He outlasted his bitterest enemy, a columnist named Walter Winchell, who once ruled New York City the way a king rules a small country.
He introduced Elvis Presley to America. He introduced the Beatles. He introduced the Rolling Stones, the Supremes, the Jackson 5, the Doors, and roughly 10,000 other acts across more than 1,000 consecutive Sunday evenings. He stood beside black performers at a moment when standing beside them cost sponsors and made enemies.
He defied the McCarthy blacklist on some occasions and quietly bowed to it on others. And we will be honest about both. He was, by every account from the people who actually worked with him, one of the strangest, kindest, most stubborn, most contradictory men in the history of American television. And almost nobody, outside of two rooms in an apartment hotel on Park Avenue, ever saw the real him.
So, tonight, you and I are going to walk through his whole life together. Not the polished version you remember from old clips. The real one. The boy from Port Chester. The young husband who married a woman his family did not approve of and stayed married to her for 42 years. The 30-year war he fought in total silence against the most feared columnist in America.
The night he refused on principle to do what every other host in the country was doing. And the small white hospital room in the spring of 1973 where the unmoving face finally moved. But to understand that man behind the curtain in 1964, we have to go back. Way back. To a small house in a small town just north of New York City in the very first years of the 20th century.
Because the lessons that built Ed Sullivan, the lessons that froze his face into the most famous mask on American television, were taught to him before he was 8 years old. His full name was Edward Vincent Sullivan. He was born on the 28th of September, 1901, in Harlem in New York City into a working Irish Catholic family that already had more children than money.
His parents were Peter Arthur Sullivan, who worked for the United States Customs Service, and Elizabeth Smith Sullivan, who kept the house and the children. There were many children. Ed was, by most accounts, the fifth or sixth of seven, depending on how you count. And here is a small detail that almost every short biography of him leaves out, but that mattered enormously to the family.
Ed was a twin. His twin brother was named Daniel. Daniel died as an infant in the first months of life. The shadow of that small lost brother stayed in the Sullivan household for the rest of Elizabeth’s life, and almost certainly shaped the way she raised the boy who survived. Family members later said she watched Ed more closely than any of the others.
She worried more. She held on tighter. When Ed was about 5 years old, the family left Harlem and moved north about 30 miles up the Hudson to a small town called Port Chester, New York. Port Chester in 1906 was the kind of American town that does not really exist anymore. It had a main street with a hardware store and a drugstore and a saloon.
It had a Catholic church and an Episcopal church and a Jewish synagogue, all of them within walking distance of each other. It had a railroad station where the New Haven line stopped four times an hour. And it had, on a quiet street near the church the small wood frame house where Ed Sullivan would grow up.
The house was crowded. Two parents, six children, an aunt for a few years. Money was always tight. Peter Sullivan went to work before sunrise. Elizabeth Sullivan ran a household that could not afford waste of any kind. The children shared bedrooms, shared clothes, shared everything. And in the middle of that crowded house, the boy who would one day be watched by 73 million Americans on a single Sunday evening was, by every family account, almost shockingly quiet.
He did not laugh easily. He did not cry where anyone could see him. According to a story Ed himself later told in a rare interview he gave to a New York magazine in the 1960s, his mother sat him down when he was about 7 years old after he had cried over some small boyhood injury and explained to him, very gently and very firmly, that men in this family did not weep where people could see them.
Tears, she told him, were a private thing. You could feel them. You could even shed them, but you did them alone in your own room with the door closed. In public, in front of other people, you kept your face still. We do not know the exact words she used. That conversation, like most of the small intimate moments in any childhood, was never written down at the time.
But the lesson she gave him, whatever its exact shape, held for the next 66 years. It held when his father died. It held when his older sister died young. It held the night he stood in front of the largest live audience in television history. And it held, almost to the very end, in a hospital room in 1973. The face he showed the world was the face Elizabeth Sullivan taught him to wear in 1908.
It almost never changed. But the boy underneath the still face was not still at all. He was, by every account from his school years, restless, ambitious, and quietly furious about almost everything. He was not, in the academic sense, a brilliant student. His grades were average. His teachers later said he showed no special promise in any subject, except one.
He could write. And he could write fast. By the time he was 12 years old, he was filing little reports about local high school sports games for the Port Chester Daily Item, the small newspaper of his hometown. The editor paid him almost nothing, sometimes a few cents per article. Ed did not care about the money.
He cared about seeing the words in print. By his 15th birthday, he had a regular byline. By his 16th, he was covering games at the high school where he was still a student. He was also, by the standards of small-town America in the 1910s, a remarkably good athlete. He played baseball seriously, football competitively, and he boxed in informal local matches.
He was not the best at any of these things. But he was tough. Coaches later said he was the kind of boy who would take three punches to land one. The athletic side of him stayed. For the rest of his life, even when he was the most powerful host on American television, he kept a quiet, almost professional respect for boxers, prize fighters, baseball players, and anyone who had ever, in his phrase, {quote} won.
Then, in 1917, when Ed was 16 years old, the country went to war, the First World War, and his older brother Charles, who had been the family’s pride, signed up. Ed wanted to follow him. He was too young. His mother, who had already buried one son in infancy, made it very clear that no second son of hers was going to France while she could prevent it.
Ed stayed home. Charles came back eventually, alive but changed in a way the family did not entirely understand. And in 1918, when Ed was 17, the great influenza pandemic swept through Port Chester the way it swept through every small town in America. The flu took, among many others, his older sister Helen. She was in her early 20s.
By his own later admission, in a private letter quoted in James Maguire’s biography Impresario, the death of Helen was the moment Ed Sullivan stopped being a boy. He did not weep where people could see him because he had been taught not to. He went to the funeral. He stood beside his mother. He came home. And then, by the family’s account, he went up to his small bedroom, closed the door, and stayed there for most of the next 2 days.
When he came out, he announced to his parents that as soon as he finished high school, he was going to leave Port Chester and move to New York City and become a real newspaper man. He kept the promise. He graduated from Port Chester High School in 1918. He worked for a year or so at the Daily Item, saving money.
And then, sometime in the autumn of 1919, with, by family legend, about $3 in his pocket and a recommendation letter from his small town editor, he went down to the Port Chester railroad station, said goodbye to his parents, and got on the southbound train to New York City. He was 18 years old. He had no apartment, no contacts, and no real plan beyond a single sentence he had repeated to himself for over a year.
He was going to be a newspaper man. What happened next, between roughly 1919 and the middle of the 1920s, is the part of Ed Sullivan’s life that almost no one talks about. There were no cameras yet. There were no biographers following him. There are, in the historical record, mostly his own later recollections, plus a few brief mentions in the trade papers of the time.
So, we have to be a little careful here, because some of what survives is his own version, told decades later. But, the broad outline is solid, confirmed by multiple sources. He walked into the offices of a small sports paper called the New York Evening Mail, took whatever work was offered, and slept in cheap rooming houses in lower Manhattan while he learned the trade.
By 1920, at age 19, he was a junior sports writer. By 1922, he was filing real columns. By the middle of the 1920s, he had moved through three or four newspapers, the Mail, the Leader, the Bulletin. And eventually, the New York Evening Graphic. Climbing each time, taking a slightly better title and a slightly better paycheck.
He was building, very methodically, exactly what his small town editor had told him to build. A name. A byline. A reputation that other editors would notice. And here, in the middle of the 1920s, in a city that was about to become the loudest, brightest, drunkest, most theatrical place on Earth, the Manhattan of the Jazz Age, of speakeasies and Broadway openings, of Babe Ruth and Jack Dempsey, and the new electric signs in Times Square, Ed Sullivan became the kind of young who knew every fight manager, every
boxing promoter, every minor vaudeville agent, every doorman at every nightclub. He was not famous. He was not even close to famous. But he was known. He was the quiet, polite Irish kid with the long face and the careful manners. The one who never got drunk at the parties, the one who remembered names. The one who paid back small favors quickly and never asked for big ones.
He was also, by every account, lonely. Manhattan in the 1920s was a young man’s city, and most of the young men around him were spending their evenings in ways Ed did not particularly enjoy. He drank a little, but only a little. He chased a little, but not seriously. He worked. He filed his columns. He went home to small rented rooms and read newspapers from other cities late into the night.
And then, sometime in the late 1920s, the exact date is not preserved, but the context is well documented. At a small theatrical club in midtown Manhattan, the kind of place where reporters and chorus girls and second-tier actors went after the shows came down, the polite young Irish sports writer looked up from a coffee cup and saw, sitting two tables away, a young woman with very dark hair, very steady eyes, and a particular kind of stillness about her that he later said reminded him of his mother.
Her name was Sylvia Weinstein. She was the daughter of a Jewish family from New York. She was about a year younger than he was. She was working in the theatrical world in some small administrative capacity. And from the moment Ed Sullivan saw her across that small room, by his own later admission, he was finished.
He did not know it that night. He would not know it for several months. But the most important meeting of his entire life had just happened in a room he could not afterward even remember the name of on an evening he could not afterward even date. What he did not know yet, what neither of them knew yet, was that loving each other was going to cost both of their families almost everything.
Because in 1920-something in New York City, an Irish Catholic boy from Port Chester and a Jewish girl from Manhattan did not under any normal circumstances get married. Not without a war, not without disowned parents, not without two religions, two neighborhoods, and two entire extended families lining up against them.
Sylvia Weinstein was by every description that survives of her, the kind of young woman who did not waste words. She was small. She was dark-haired. She was sharp in the way that quiet people are sharp. She watched everything, said little, and remembered all of it. She had grown up in a Jewish family in New York that valued education, music, and respectability in roughly that order.
She read seriously. She had opinions about the theater that were sharper than most of the opinions Ed was paid to print in his newspaper column. And when she met the polite young Irish Catholic sports writer from Port Chester, she did something that, according to the people who knew them both at the time, almost no one else in Ed Sullivan’s life ever managed to do.
She made him talk. We do not know exactly what they spoke about during those first weeks. Their early conversations were not recorded, and the few details we have come from things their daughter Betty later shared in interviews many decades afterward. So, we should treat the small specifics carefully. But the larger picture is well documented by family accounts and by James Maguire’s biography of Sullivan.
By the spring of 1928 or 1929, Ed and Sylvia were seeing each other regularly in the careful way that two young people in 1920s Manhattan saw each other when the relationship was already serious and both of them knew it. And both of them already knew the problem. He was Catholic. She was Jewish. In the New York City of that era, those were not just two religions.
They were two entire social worlds with their own neighborhoods, their own newspapers, their own marriage customs, their own grandmothers waiting at home with very strong opinions about who was acceptable and who was not. An Irish Catholic boy from Port Chester was not supposed to bring home a Jewish girl from Manhattan.
And a Jewish girl from Manhattan was absolutely not supposed to bring home an Irish Catholic boy from anywhere. Both families, when they found out, reacted exactly the way the era taught them to react. There were arguments. There were silences. There were attempts on both sides to talk the young people out of what they were obviously about to do.
The young people did it anyway. On the 28th of April, 1930, Edward Vincent Sullivan and Sylvia Weinstein were married in a quiet civil ceremony in New York City. There was no church. There was no synagogue. There was no large family gathering. There were, by most accounts, only a handful of witnesses. Ed was 28.
Sylvia was about a year younger. And in the moment they signed the marriage certificate, two extended families on opposite sides of the city did exactly what their relatives had warned them they would do. They went silent. Not all of them and not forever. Some came around quickly. Some never fully came around. But the early years of the Sullivan marriage, by every honest account, were lived in a kind of low, steady tension between two clans who had not signed off on the union, and were not going to pretend that they had.
Ed and Sylvia handled this the only way they knew how. They closed the door. They built, inside their own small apartment, a private country of two citizens. And inside that country, by every later account from their daughter, and from the friends who actually saw them at home, Ed Sullivan was a different man from the one the public would eventually meet on television.
He talked. He laughed out loud. He told stories at the dinner table about boxers and reporters and the strange characters he met in Manhattan nightclubs. He let Sylvia tease him about his slow way of speaking and his careful Irish manners. He listened to her opinions about everything, about politics, about the theater, about the people he was writing about in his column.
And according to Betty, who was watching from very close range for 40 years, he changed his mind in response to those opinions more often than he ever publicly admitted. In December of 1930, just under 8 months after the wedding, their only child was born. A daughter. They named her Elizabeth, after Ed’s mother.
But everyone in the family called her Betty. She was, by every later account, the absolute center of her father’s emotional life from the day she was born until the day he died. The man who had been taught at age seven not to cry where people could see him, became, behind the closed door of the apartment, a father who carried his small daughter on his shoulders, sang to her in a voice that no audience would ever hear.
And according to Betty’s own later interviews, used to read her the comic pages of the newspaper out loud, doing all the voices until she fell asleep. That was Ed Sullivan at home. That was the version Sylvia married. The version the public was about to meet was very different. Because while he was building his marriage, Ed was also climbing fast in the brutal world of New York newspaper journalism.
By 1931, he had been hired by the New York Evening Graphic, one of the loudest, trashiest, most aggressive tabloids in the city, to write a Broadway gossip column. And here, in this assignment, the careful quiet young sports writer from Port Chester ran straight into the man who would become the central enemy of his professional life, a columnist named Walter Winchell.
Walter Winchell, in the early 1930s, was not just a columnist. He was, in many ways, the inventor of the modern American gossip column. He wrote for the New York Daily Mirror. He had a radio show that millions of Americans listened to every Sunday night, opening with the famous shouted line, “Quote two.” He sat at table 50 at the Stork Club, where every press agent in New York knew to find him.
And from that table, he decided, on any given evening, which Broadway show would succeed, which singer would be famous next month, and which married actor was about to be quietly, publicly destroyed for being seen with the wrong person. Winchell’s power was real. Studios feared him. Politicians courted him.
President Roosevelt gave him private interviews. And Winchell, by every account from the people who worked beside him, knew exactly how powerful he was, and was not gentle about it. When Ed Sullivan started writing his own Broadway column, Winchell took it personally. There was already one Broadway columnist in New York, in Winchell’s view, and that columnist was Winchell.
The fact that this polite, slow-talking, long-faced Irish sports writer from a smaller paper was now poaching on his territory was, to Winchell, a declaration of war. So, Winchell went to war. He attacked Sullivan in print. He attacked him on the radio. He spread small, humiliating stories about him in the gossip economy of Midtown Manhattan, where one whispered sentence at the right table could end a career by morning.
Ed Sullivan, in the face of this, did something almost unheard of in 1930s newspaper culture. He did nothing. He did not respond in print. He did not answer on the radio. He did not whisper back at his own table. He simply kept writing his column three times a week with that same careful Irish steadiness, as if the most powerful gossip columnist in America was not, at that very moment, trying to destroy him in front of the entire industry.
This silence was not weakness. According to the people who knew him then, it was something much harder. It was a decision. Ed Sullivan had decided, very early, that he was not going to give Walter Winchell the satisfaction of a single visible reaction. Not a flicker, not a frown, not a printed reply. The two men would eventually share elevators, share restaurants, share entire industry events for the next 30 years.
And for 30 years, by multiple eyewitness accounts collected later by historians of the era, Ed Sullivan never once acknowledged Walter Winchell’s existence. Not with a nod, not with a glance, not with a single word. It was, in its quiet way, one of the longest and most disciplined acts of personal warfare in the history of American journalism.
And Sylvia, at home, was the one who held that discipline together. Because, as Betty later confirmed in interviews, there were many evenings during those years when Ed came home from work simmering with rage, ready to break his own rule and write the answering column that would have ended Winchell’s reputation.
And every time, according to family recollection, Sylvia talked him down. Not by shouting, not by ordering, just by sitting beside him, listening, and asking, very quietly, whether tomorrow morning he really wanted Walter Winchell to know that he had finally landed a punch. Every time Ed put down the pen. Every time the answering column did not get written.
The silence held. And the silence, in the end, did more damage to Winchell than any column ever could have. Through the 1930s and into the 1940s, Ed kept climbing. He moved from the Graphic to the New York Daily News in 1932, where his column, quote, Three, became one of the most widely read in the city. He covered Broadway openings.
He covered nightclubs. He covered prize fights at Madison Square Garden. He covered every benefit show and every charity gala in Manhattan. He became known in the industry as a man who would help young performers, book them on small stages, mention them in his column, introduce them to the right agents, and who never, ever asked for a kickback.
Money was not, by every account, what motivated him. He was already, by the late ’30s, comfortably well off. What motivated him was something quieter. He liked, genuinely liked, watching unknown people become known. Then came the war, the Second World War. Like many American journalists who were too old to be drafted, Ed spent the early 1940s writing about the home front, hosting benefit shows for the troops, traveling to military hospitals to entertain wounded soldiers.
He worked, by his own description in his column, harder during those years than at any other time in his life. He also, in those benefit shows, started to learn something about himself that would become the foundation of everything that came next. He learned that he could stand on a stage in front of an audience and introduce other performers, singers, dancers, comedians, and that the audiences did not seem to mind that he himself could not sing or dance or tell a joke.
They seemed to actually like the contrast. They liked, in the middle of a long evening of performance, the calm, plain, slightly awkward man who walked out and said, very simply, “Here is the next act.” By 1947, Ed Sullivan was 46 years old, a successful newspaper columnist, a happy husband, a devoted father to a teenage daughter.
He had a comfortable life. He was not looking for a new career. And then, a man named Worthington Minor, a producer at a small, struggling television network called CBS, walked into a benefit show Ed was hosting in Manhattan, watched him work the crowd for about 20 minutes, and decided, on the spot, that this slow-talking newspaper columnist with the unmoving face was exactly the host the network was looking for to launch a new Sunday evening variety hour.
Television in 1947 was not yet what we think of today. Most American homes did not have a set. Programming was patchy, experimental, and broadcast almost entirely live. CBS had decided to gamble on a Sunday night variety show. Singers, dancers, comedians, novelty acts, all in 1 hour. And they needed a host who would not steal the spotlight from the performers.
Most of the famous names of the era were too big, too theatrical, too eager to be the center. Worthington Minor wanted somebody who would walk out, say a few sentences, step back, and let the act do the work. Ed Sullivan, on that Manhattan benefit stage, looked to him like exactly that man. The offer was made. Ed hesitated.
He did not know television. He had never appeared on camera. He was, by his own quiet admission to friends, terrified of making a fool of himself. He went home, and according to Betty’s later account, he and Sylvia talked it through across the kitchen table for several evenings in a row. The reconstructed version of that conversation has been told many times by family members.
So, we should be careful and call it what it is. A family memory, not a recording. But the gist, repeated consistently across decades, was simple. Ed worried he would embarrass himself. Sylvia, by Betty’s account, told him there was only one way to find out. And that if it failed, they still had the column, still had each other, and still had the apartment. He took the job.
The show premiered on the 20th of June, 1948, on the CBS Television Network. It was originally called, {quote} Four. The first broadcast was an hour long. The budget was tiny. The studio was small. The audience was, by today’s standards, almost invisible. Only a fraction of American homes had television sets at all.
But the lineup that first night was already astonishing. The two main acts were a young comedy duo who had been working New York nightclubs together for less than two years named Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis. They were not yet famous. They would be soon, partly because of that night. There was also a concert pianist, a ballerina, a singing fireman from New York, and a few novelty performers.
Ed walked out in his dark suit with his hands folded in front of him and he introduced each act in that slow, careful, slightly awkward way that would become over the next 23 years one of the most recognizable styles on American television. The reviews the next morning were almost without exception brutal about Ed personally. Critics in the New York papers called him stiff. They called him wooden.
They mocked his pronunciation. One famous early review said in print that had no business being on television and would be off the air within 13 weeks. The viewers, however, disagreed. The ratings were modest at first, but they were steady and they were growing. And something else was happening that the critics were not seeing yet.
The performers themselves loved working with him. He paid them on time. He treated them with old-fashioned respect. He listened to them. And when he introduced them, he said their names, even the difficult names, the immigrant names, the names other hosts mispronounced or skipped over entirely with a deliberate, careful seriousness that audiences at home noticed.
To understand why Ed Sullivan said no to Elvis Presley, you have to understand what Elvis Presley looked like to a 40-something Irish Catholic father in 1956. By the spring of that year, Elvis had already appeared on several other television variety programs. He had been on the Dorsey Brothers Show. He had been on Milton Berle. He had been on Steve Allen, where the producers, in a famous compromise, dressed him in a tuxedo and made him sing to a real basset hound in an attempt to neutralize what one newspaper of the era called {underscore}
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In an interview with a New York reporter in the early summer of 1956, Sullivan said, on the record, that Elvis Presley was not the kind of performer he wanted on his show. He used the word {underscore} {underscore} {quote} {underscore} six {underscore} {underscore}. He suggested that what Elvis was doing was not appropriate for a Sunday evening family program.
The quote was reprinted across the country. Teenagers laughed at it. Parents nodded at it. Elvis, by all accounts, was hurt by it. And in the offices of CBS, executives looked at the rating numbers Elvis was pulling for other networks and quietly pointed out to Ed Sullivan that the steady Sunday night dominance of his program was about to be challenged in a serious way by a competitor named Steve Allen, who had already booked Elvis and was beating Ed in the ratings on the nights Elvis appeared.
Ed Sullivan was, among other things, a businessman. And the business part of him, by every account, was the part Sylvia trusted least and watched most carefully. By the middle of July, 1956, the business part one. The Sullivan organization signed a contract with Elvis Presley’s manager, Colonel Tom Parker, for three appearances on the show for the then extraordinary sum of $50,000.
It was the largest amount of money ever paid to a single performer for television appearances up to that point in American broadcasting history. And Ed Sullivan, who had publicly said only weeks earlier that he would never put Elvis on his stage, signed the contract. He never tried to pretend he had not changed his mind.
That, by every account from people who worked with him, was a real Sullivan trait. When he was wrong, he changed direction and he did not waste energy defending the previous position. He just moved. And then, in early August of 1956, about a month before Elvis was scheduled to make his first appearance, Ed Sullivan was nearly killed.
On a country road in Connecticut, near the town of Southbury, on the 6th of August, 1956, Ed Sullivan was at the wheel of his car when it collided with another vehicle in a serious crash. The accident was bad. He suffered broken ribs, a fractured sternum, internal injuries, and a concussion. He was hospitalized.
For several days, the family was, by Betty’s later recollection, genuinely afraid that he might not survive. He did survive, but the recovery was slow, and there was no possible way he was going to be back on his feet in time to host the show on the evening Elvis Presley was scheduled to make his American television debut on his program.
So, CBS made a decision that, in retrospect, has its own strange poetry. They brought in a guest host for that first Elvis appearance. The guest host was the British actor Charles Laughton, a heavyweight stage and screen star, the kind of formal Shakespearean presence who could not have been more different from Elvis Presley if a casting director had spent a year trying to design the contrast.
And so, on the 9th of September, 1956, in front of approximately 60 million American viewers, at the time, more than 80% of the entire American television audience, it was Charles Laughton, not Ed Sullivan, who introduced Elvis Presley to America on the Ed Sullivan Show. Ed watched it from a hospital bed in Connecticut on a small television set with Sylvia in a chair beside him.
He came back for the second Elvis appearance on the 28th of October, 1956. He was thinner. He was paler. He was visibly still recovering. And he walked out in his dark suit with his hands folded, and he did the thing that almost nobody in 1956 expected him to do. He praised Elvis on the air. He looked into the camera and he said, with that careful Sullivan steadiness, that Elvis Presley was a fine, decent young man, that he had been a pleasure to work with, and in what became one of the most quoted lines of 1950s television,
he wished him well. The man who had publicly called Elvis unfit four months earlier had now, on national television, personally vouched for him. To a generation of American parents who trusted Ed Sullivan in the way they trusted few other figures on television, that one short statement did more to make Elvis Presley acceptable in middle American homes than any number of magazine articles ever could have.
Ed had crossed over, and he had taken Elvis with him. The third Elvis appearance on the 6th of January, 1957, contained the moment that lives in television history. The CBS cameras, on direct instruction from the network, framed Elvis only from the waist up for his musical numbers, in order to spare American living rooms the sight of the famous dancing hips.
The decision was not, contrary to one popular legend, primarily Ed Sullivan’s. Multiple sources, including network memos later quoted by historians, confirmed that the framing decision was a CBS executive call, made under sponsor pressure. Ed went along with it. He did not, by every account, fight it. Whether he privately agreed with it is something he never publicly said.
But the image, Elvis singing “Don’t Be Cruel” while the camera carefully held him at the chest while teenage girls in the studio audience screamed at every movement they could not see, became one of the iconic images of the 1950s American culture war, and it happened on the program of the man who had once said Elvis was unfit to appear there.
Now, here is something we need to say honestly, because it matters, and because it is part of why Ed Sullivan’s program ended up being so important. The Elvis story is the famous one. But while America was arguing about Elvis Presley’s hips, Ed Sullivan was, on that same stage, week after week, doing something quieter and, in the long run, much more consequential.
He was bringing black performers onto Sunday evening American television, in front of audiences in the South as well as the North, and he was treating them on camera with exactly the same warmth he showed white performers. He shook their hands. He stood beside them. He put his arm around their shoulders.
He invited them onto the couch beside him for short on-air conversations. In the 1950s American television market, none of these gestures were neutral. Sponsors complained. Southern affiliates complained. According to multiple accounts later confirmed by historians of the era, including the documentary Sullevision produced by the Sullivan estate and historians of CBS, there were repeated occasions on which sponsors asked Sullivan to stop physically standing so close to black performers or to skip the on-camera handshakes or to drop certain black acts
from the schedule entirely. The exact wording of those complaints is not preserved in every case, but the pattern is well documented. And Ed Sullivan, by every account from CBS staff who were there, refused. Not loudly. Not with speeches. He just kept booking the acts, kept shaking the hands, kept standing where he stood.
Pearl Bailey appeared on the show. Nat King Cole appeared on the show. Louis Armstrong appeared on the show. The Supremes later appeared on the show. Bo Diddley, The Temptations, James Brown. Eventually, in the 1960s, the Jackson 5 with a small boy named Michael as their lead singer. Ed never spoke publicly about what he was doing in racial terms.
That was not his style. He did not give interviews about civil rights. He did not march. He did not make speeches. What he did was very simple and for 1956 quietly radical. He acted on television every Sunday night as if black American performers were exactly what they were, among the the entertainers in the country.
And he dared his sponsors to make him stop. He was not perfect on this. We should be honest about that, too. He bowed, for example, to political pressure during the McCarthy era. The folk singer, Pete Seeger, who had been blacklisted in the 1950s for his political associations, was kept off the Ed Sullivan Show for years.
There were other performers, less famous, who were similarly excluded for political, rather than racial, reasons. The blacklist was a real thing in American broadcasting in the 1950s, and Ed Sullivan, for all his quiet courage about race, did not publicly fight it. He worked inside it. He made compromises. Some performers paid the price.
This is part of who he was. He was not a saint. He was a careful, contradictory, ambitious Irish Catholic newspaperman from Port Chester, who had built a Sunday night empire on a national television network, and who picked very carefully which battles he was going to fight openly, and which ones he was going to lose quietly.
The race battle he fought. The political blacklist battle, mostly he did not. Both things are true, and both things are part of the historical record. Through the late 1950s and into the early 1960s, the show grew bigger and bigger. It became the central American television variety program, the place every performer in the country wanted to be.
Comedians who got booked could double their nightclub fees the next morning. Singers who got booked could see their record sales jump within a week. The phrase, “I had a really big show,” which Ed used to mispronounce as “really big shoe,” in the slightly mannered way that became one of his trademarks, turned into a national catchphrase.
Comedians on every other television program imitated him. Late-night impressionists built whole careers on impressions of him. The unmoving face, the folded hands, the slow, careful introductions, all of it became part of the visual furniture of American Sunday evenings, in roughly the same way the national anthem before a baseball game became part of the visual furniture of American afternoons.
He was, by the early 1960s, simply there. Every Sunday. 8:00, CBS. And while all of this public empire was being built, the private country of two citizens, Ed and Sylvia in their apartment, went on almost untouched by any of it. They had moved, by this point in the 1950s, into a suite at the Del Monico Hotel on Park Avenue at 59th Street in Manhattan.
They would live there for the rest of their lives together, more than two decades. The suite was not enormous. It was not lavishly decorated. By the descriptions of the few visitors who were allowed in, it was a comfortable, slightly old-fashioned New York apartment with bookshelves, with photographs of Betty on the side tables, with a single dining table where Ed and Sylvia ate most of their evening meals alone, just the two of them, often after Ed had come home from a long Sunday taping at the theater on Broadway. This
is the part of his life that no fan in America ever saw. According to Betty’s later interviews, and according to the friends who occasionally came to dinner at the Del Monico, the man who walked through that apartment door at the end of a Sunday night was not the wooden, unsmiling figure from television. He was a husband who came home and immediately wanted to know how Sylvia’s day had been.
He was a man who, in the small kitchen of the suite, would describe the evening’s show to her in detail, which acts had worked, which had not, which young performer he wanted to bring back, which sponsor had complained about which thing. And he would, by Betty’s repeated description in family interviews, listen seriously to Sylvia’s reactions and adjust the next week’s plans based on what she said.
Sylvia, in those years, became something almost no public history has ever properly recorded, the unofficial, unacknowledged co-producer of the Ed Sullivan Show. She did not have a credit. She did not draw a salary. She did not appear on camera. But by every honest account from the people who were close to the marriage, dozens of decisions about who got booked, who got invited back, who got dropped, were shaped at that small dining table in the Delmonico by a sharp-eyed Jewish woman from Manhattan who had seen the
act at home on Saturday evening, and who told her husband, very quietly over coffee, what she thought. There is a small, reconstructed scene that the family has shared in interviews, which we should call exactly what it is, a memory, not a recording. According to Betty, on certain Sunday nights when Ed came home in a foul mood about something that had gone wrong on the broadcast, Sylvia would let him talk for a while, then say, very mildly, that the part of the show she had liked best was the part he had not yet mentioned,
some quiet musical moment, some small unknown act, some interview with an old vaudevillian. She would describe what she had seen in that moment in just a few sentences, and, by Betty’s account, those few sentences from Sylvia, repeated week after week for over 20 years, gently steered her husband back, again and again, toward the parts of his own program that he was sometimes too tired or too irritated to see clearly.
He listened. He always listened. Whatever else Ed Sullivan was, in front of his wife, he was a man who listened. By the early 1960s, he was approaching 60 years old. The unmoving television face was now familiar to two full American generations. The Elvis storm had passed. The country had survived it. Elvis had become almost respectable.
The show was, in audience size, somewhere near the top of American television week after week. There was no obvious reason to think the most defining cultural moment of his entire career was still ahead of him. He could have coasted. He could have settled. Most men in his position at that age would have. Instead, late in the autumn of 1963, Ed Sullivan flew with Sylvia to London on personal business.
They were standing in the lobby of Heathrow Airport when, by Ed’s own later account in interviews, the entire terminal around them suddenly began screaming. Hundreds of teenage girls were pressed against the glass, shrieking and crying, waiting for some arriving flight. Ed, the old Broadway columnist, the lifelong professional observer of mass excitement, stopped and watched.
He had seen crowds like this before. He had seen them for Frank Sinatra in 1944. He had seen them for Elvis in 1956. He had not seen them, until that day in London, for whoever this new act was. He turned, by his own description, to a nearby airport employee, and he asked, very simply, what the screaming was about.
The answer was a name he had never heard before. A four-piece band from Liverpool. The Beatles. By the time Ed Sullivan walked out of Heathrow Airport that day, he had already, in his head, started writing the booking. Within weeks, his organization had reached an agreement with the band’s manager, a young Englishman named Brian Epstein, for three appearances on the program in February of 1964 for a fee that, by the standards of British pop bookings, was very low, but for the visibility it offered was almost incalculable.
The signing was reported in the trade press at the time, and almost nobody in the American entertainment industry took it seriously. Most American critics, in the autumn of 1963, had still never heard of the Beatles. Most American radio stations were not playing them yet. The booking looked to outsiders like Ed Sullivan paying real American money for an obscure English novelty act that nobody on this side of the Atlantic was going to remember by spring.
Ed Sullivan, sitting at his small dining table at the Delmonico, with Sylvia across from him, had a different opinion. According to Betty’s later accounts of conversations she heard around the apartment in those weeks, Ed told his wife, in language we cannot quote exactly because no one was writing it down, that he had seen the screaming in the airport with his own eyes, that he had seen the same kind of screaming for Sinatra and Elvis, and that whatever this band was, it was about to be enormous, and he was going
to put it on his stage first. The Beatles arrived in New York on the 7th of February, 1964. They flew into the airport that had been renamed only 6 weeks earlier after a young president who had been killed in Dallas the previous November, John F. Kennedy International Airport. The country they were landing in was, by every account from the people who lived through that winter, still in a kind of low national grief.
The assassination of President Kennedy on the 22nd of November, 1963, had cast a heavy shadow over the entire American holiday season. Television had been somber. Radio had been somber. Children had watched their parents cry on a Friday afternoon and had not entirely understood why the adults around them were not recovering as quickly as adults usually did.
The America that the Beatles flew into in February 1964 was, in a way that is hard to fully explain to people who did not live through it, a country that had been waiting, without quite knowing it was waiting, for permission to feel something other than sadness. Ed Sullivan, who had lived through every major shift in American mass culture since the First World War, understood this in a way that most of his competitors did not.
He did not write about it. He did not give interviews about it. But, by the accounts of CBS staff who worked with him in late January and early February of 1964, he prepared for the Beatles’ first appearance with a level of personal attention he had not given to any single booking in years. He met the band personally on the day they arrived in New York.
He took them around the studio. He went over camera positions. He went over song order. He even, by one production assistant’s later recollection, spent time discussing how loudly the studio audience would be allowed to scream during the actual musical numbers, because the engineers were genuinely worried that the sound would distort the broadcast.
He need not have worried about whether the audience would scream. The audience in the studio that night, of which 728 teenagers had been chosen from over 50,000 ticket requests, was going to do nothing else. On the evening of the 9th of February, 1964, at a few minutes past 8:00 Eastern time on the CBS Television Network, Ed Sullivan stepped out from behind that velvet curtain on the stage of the theater that bears his name today.
He was 62 years old. His hair had gone almost completely gray. The familiar dark suit, the folded hands, the careful Sullivan stance, all of it was exactly as it had been every Sunday for the previous 15 and a half years. He waited for the screaming to die down. It would not die down. He waited longer. It went on.
He finally raised his hands very slightly in a gesture that any regular viewer of the program would have recognized. The small Sullivan signal that meant, “Please, just for a moment, let me speak.” And he said into the microphone in that slow, careful voice, the four short words that anyone who was watching American television that night would remember for the rest of their lives.
Ladies and gentlemen, the Beatles. 73 million Americans watched it live. The figure was confirmed at the time by the Nielsen rating service and has been reconfirmed many times since. Out of a total United States population of about 190 million people, more than one in three were watching in real time on a single evening.
To put that in proportion, more Americans watched the Beatles’ first appearance on Ed Sullivan than would watch the first moon landing five and a half years later. Police departments around the country reported the next morning that the rate of juvenile crime during the actual hour of the broadcast had been nearly zero.
Teenagers all over the country were sitting still in front of their family television sets. Their parents were sitting next to them. And the man who had introduced the act with four short words was standing quietly off to the side of his own stage, watching what he had set in motion. After the band left the stage that night, according to multiple accounts that have been told and retold by the Beatles themselves over the decades, Ed went back to their dressing room to thank them in person.
The conversations that took place there have been described in different ways by different witnesses. And any specific quotes you may have seen are at best reconstructions from memory, sometimes from interviews given many years later. So, we should not pretend to know exactly what was said. What is known from the testimony of all four Beatles in later interviews is that Ed treated them with the same old-fashioned courtesy he had always shown unknown acts on his program, and that they, in turn, never forgot it.
They came back twice more during that trip in front of similarly enormous audiences. They came back to the program many times in later years. And in interviews given decades later, members of the band would say that Ed Sullivan had been, in their experience, one of the most decent men in American television.
The Beatles were, in retrospect, the great cultural pivot point of the program. After February of 1964, the world of American popular music changed shape almost monthly. The British invasion came rolling across the Atlantic. The Rolling Stones, The Animals, The Dave Clark Five, Herman’s Hermits, Petula Clark, The Kinks, almost all of them appeared, sooner or later, on the Sullivan stage.
The American answer, Motown, the new soul performers, the early folk rock acts, passed through the same studio. Within a few short years, Ed Sullivan, the slow-talking former Irish sports writer from Port Chester, was 65 years old and was personally introducing, on Sunday nights, the most disruptive young performers in the world to an audience of tens of millions of American families who would not, on their own, have given any of these acts a chance.
It is one of the strange, honest ironies of his life. The man who looked, on camera, like he could barely tolerate the modern world had become, off camera, the single most important early gatekeeper of 1960s American popular culture. By choosing who appeared on his stage, week after week, he was effectively choosing which new young acts would be given a fair hearing in front of middle America and which would not.
He used that power, by every honest account, with a fairness that surprised many of the young performers themselves. He did not care, in the booking decisions, about a performer’s race. He did not care, in most cases, about a performer’s politics, as long as the act itself was within the broad family television limits of the era.
He cared about whether they were good. He cared about whether they were professional. He cared about whether they treated his crew with respect. There were, of course, conflicts. Some of them are famous. In October of 1964, the comedian Jackie Mason appeared on the program. During his performance, Ed, off camera, signaled with his fingers that Mason had 2 minutes left to wrap up his routine because the broadcast was running long.
Mason, on stage, made a hand gesture in response that Ed interpreted, on the spot, as an obscene insult directed at him personally. The result was a public confrontation that played out in the press for years afterward. Mason eventually sued, and there was a partial reconciliation many years later, but the relationship was never the same.
The Mason incident is well documented with multiple eyewitness accounts and contemporary newspaper coverage, and it shows another part of Ed Sullivan that the public did not usually see, a temper, a real, sharp, Irish temper. He did not show it on camera. He almost never showed it to performers in front of an audience, but the people who worked behind the scenes, the producers and stagehands and assistants, knew, by every account, that when Ed Sullivan was angry, you stayed out of his way until Sylvia had a chance
to speak with him. There was the night in 1967 when The Doors appeared on the program. The producers had asked the band in advance to change a single line in their song Light My Fire because the original line referenced something that was, in the language of 1960s American family television, considered too suggestive.
The band on stage sang the original line anyway. Ed, off camera, was furious, and the band was informed afterward that they would not be invited back. The story has been told many times by surviving members of The Doors with slightly different details in different versions, but the basic facts are confirmed.
It is another small, telling moment. Ed Sullivan was not running an arthouse theater. He was running a national family variety program on Sunday evenings with sponsors and affiliates and the FCC watching every minute. When performers broke the rules of that environment after agreeing to follow them, he reacted, by his own standards, in a way he believed was fair.
There was also the Pete Seeger episode, which we should mention because it is part of the historical record. Seeger, the folk singer who had been blacklisted in the 1950s, was finally allowed back on the show in 1967. He performed a song called Waist Deep in the Big Muddy, which contained a clear, if oblique, criticism of the Vietnam War, and by implication, of President Lyndon Johnson’s conduct of that war.
CBS, by the contemporary news reports, censored part of the song from the original broadcast. After a public outcry, Seeger was invited back to perform the song uncensored some weeks later, and that performance did go out on the air. Ed Sullivan’s exact role in the original censorship and the eventual reversal is debated by historians, and we should be honest that the documentary record is incomplete on this.
What is clear is that by the late 1960s, the show was navigating a country that was tearing itself apart over Vietnam, civil rights, and a generational divide that ran straight through the middle of every American living room. And Ed Sullivan, in his late 60s, in his dark suit, was still standing on that stage every Sunday night trying to hold the whole strange family together for one more hour.
Behind the scenes, the marriage that had carried him through all of this was beginning, very quietly, to feel the weight of time. Sylvia, in the middle 1960s, started to have health problems. Family accounts describe periods of fatigue, periods of recovery, the slow accumulation of small medical issues that nobody wanted to alarm Ed about while the show was still going on every week.
Ed himself, by the testimony of CBS staff, became more protective of his time at home. He cut back on travel. He cut back on appearances at industry events. He still went to the studio. He still did the show. But on the days he was not actively working, he was at the Del Monaco with her increasingly often. Their daughter, Betty, was by this point a grown, married woman with children of her own.
She had married a young man named Bob Precht, who had become by the early 1960s the producer of the Ed Sullivan Show. This was not, by every account, a comfortable arrangement at all moments. Ed was the host. Bob was the producer. They were, professionally, a father-in-law and a son-in-law working in the same building on the same program.
And the normal stresses of any father-son-in-law relationship were sharpened by the daily pressure of producing live national television. They argued. They reconciled. They argued again. By every later account from Betty, the arguments stayed inside the family, and the work on screen never suffered. But it was not always easy.
By 1970, the program was 22 years old. The performer landscape had changed almost beyond recognition since 1948. The variety format itself was beginning to look old-fashioned to younger viewers who were turning increasingly to specialized programs, sitcoms, dedicated music shows, the new late-night talk programs.
Ratings, while still respectable, were declining. CBS was looking internally at a younger Sunday night lineup. And in the spring of 1971, after 23 consecutive years on the air, the network informed Ed Sullivan, in a meeting that has been described in different ways by different sources, but whose general outline is well established, that the program would not be renewed for the following fall season.
The exact way the news was delivered has been the subject of some dispute. Some accounts say Ed was given proper advance warning. Other accounts, including some quoted in James Maguire’s biography of him, say the news came more abruptly than Ed felt was respectful. After 23 years of building one of the most successful programs in CBS history, we should be careful here because the contemporary documentary record on the cancellation meeting itself is thin.
And most of what survives is later recollection by the people involved. What is certain is that the cancellation was real, that it was final, and that the last regular episode of the Ed Sullivan Show aired on the 28th of March, 1971. There was a brief special the following spring. After that, the program, the Sunday night institution that had introduced Elvis Presley, the Beatles, the Rolling Stones, the Supremes, the Jackson 5, and roughly 10,000 other acts to American families, was over.
Ed Sullivan was 69 years old. He did not, by every account from those who saw him in that period, take it well. He did not, however, take it loudly. The mask his mother had taught him to wear in 1908 held almost perfectly in public. He gave dignified interviews. He told reporters that he understood the network’s decision.
He thanked the audiences who had watched him for 23 years. He continued for a while to host occasional television specials for CBS, and he continued to be paid by contract by the network. The public face was steady. The private face, by Betty’s later accounts, was something else. He spent more time at the Del Monaco. He spent more time with Sylvia.
He read more. He answered the steady stream of fan letters that, even after the program ended, kept arriving at the apartment in New York. According to Betty, he did not seem bitter. He seemed, more than anything, tired. The man who had filed his first newspaper column at 12 and had been working continuously for 56 years was finally allowed to slow down.
He found, by his daughter’s description, that slowing down was not as easy as he had imagined. And then, in February of 1972, less than a year after the show ended, Walter Winchell died. Winchell, the great enemy of Ed Sullivan’s professional life, had spent his last years in a slow, personal collapse. His radio show was gone.
His column was gone. His readership had evaporated. He had outlived his own moment by more than a decade. He died on the 20th of February, 1972, in Los Angeles, of cancer. He was 74 years old. According to contemporary press coverage, including reports in the New York Times, Variety, and the Los Angeles Times, his funeral was a small one.
By most accounts, the only family member present at the graveside was his daughter, Walda. A handful of reporters and a few colleagues attended. The Stork Club, where he had once sat at table 50 and decided the fate of Broadway careers, had closed years earlier. The radio audience that had once numbered in the tens of millions was scattered.
The empire was gone. Ed Sullivan, at the Del Monaco Hotel in New York, did not, by every account, attend the funeral. He did not issue a public statement. He did not, according to family memory, talk about Winchell with anyone in the household for several days. The 30-year silence held one more time. According to a memory shared by Betty in a later interview, which again, we should call what it is, a family recollection, not a recording.
Ed did, on the evening the news broke, sit for a long time in the chair near the window of the apartment, looking out at Park Avenue, with a glass of something untouched on the small table beside him. Sylvia, by Betty’s account, sat near him. Neither of them, in Betty’s telling, said very much for a long time.
After 30 years of war fought entirely without words, the end of the war, too, was without words. He had outlasted his enemy. He had outlasted, by this point, almost all of the great rival columnists of his 1930s youth. He was still alive. Sylvia was still beside him. Betty was a grown woman with her own children.
By every reasonable measure, Ed Sullivan, in the spring of 1972, was a man who had won in the long, quiet way he had always preferred to win. The diagnosis came in the late summer of 1972. Sylvia Sullivan was 69 years old. The exact medical details were kept inside the family at the time, and most contemporary accounts describe her illness in the careful, vague language that families of that era used when they wanted to protect a loved one’s privacy.
What is clear from later interviews with Betty, and from the recollections of close family friends, is that the illness moved quickly. The woman who had walked beside Ed Sullivan for 42 years, who had sat across from him at the small dining table at the Delmonico for two decades, who had quietly steered the booking decisions of the most watched variety program in American television history without ever taking a credit was suddenly in the autumn of 1972 very seriously ill.
Ed Sullivan, who was about to turn 71, did the only thing that, by every account from the people who knew him, he could possibly have done. He stopped almost everything else. The occasional television specials he had still been doing for CBS were quietly set aside. The few public appearances he had agreed to were canceled or postponed.
He stayed at the Del Monico. When Sylvia was admitted to the hospital, he went with her. When she came home, he came home with her. When she went back, he went back. By the recollection of the medical staff who later spoke about that period in interviews and oral histories, Ed Sullivan, the most recognizable man in American television, became in those months simply an aging Irish husband sitting in a chair beside a hospital bed, holding his wife’s hand, asking the nurses careful, polite questions, and waiting.
Sylvia Weinstein Sullivan died on the 16th of March, 1973, in New York City. She was 69 years old. They had been married for 42 years, 10 months, and 16 days. The funeral was small by Sullivan Show standards. Family, close friends, a few colleagues, no press circus, no long speeches. Ed, by every account from the people who were there, stood through the service in his dark suit with his hands folded in front of him in exactly the posture 73 million Americans had watched him hold on a Broadway stage nine years earlier.
The face was, in public, almost still. What happened in private, in the small white hospital room in the days before her death, and in the apartment at the Delmonico in the days after, has been described in only the most careful, general terms by the family members who were present.
It is not, and should not be, the kind of moment we reconstruct in detail, because the people who were actually there have very deliberately not described it in detail. What Betty has said, in interviews given in later decades, is that the mask her grandmother had taught her father to wear in 1908, finally, in those weeks, came off. He wept.
He wept in front of his daughter. He wept, by her description, in a way she had never seen him weep in her entire life. The man who had been taught at age seven that men in this family did not weep where people could see them, had, at the age of 71, in front of the one daughter who had ever truly known him, finally been given a sorrow large enough to break the rule.
After the funeral, Ed went back to the Delmonico. He did not move out. He did not redecorate. He did not, by any account, change a single thing about the apartment. Sylvia’s books stayed where she had left them. Her chair stayed where it had always been. Her side of the small dining table, where she had eaten dinner with him for over 20 years, was simply empty.
He continued to live there, in those rooms, surrounded by the country of two citizens that now had only one citizen left. According to the people who saw him in the months that followed, Betty, his son-in-law Bob Precht, a few long-time CBS colleagues, his small group of personal friends, he aged, in the spring and early summer of 1973, in a way that surprised everyone.
He looked, suddenly, much older. He moved more slowly. He ate less. He spoke less. The vital, watchful, restless energy that had carried him through 56 continuous years of professional work was very visibly leaving him. His public appearances in this period were almost non-existent. When he did appear in public briefly at one or two industry events, the people who saw him remarked in private on how thin he had become.
What Ed Sullivan himself was actually feeling in those months, we cannot know with any precision. He gave very few interviews in the year after Sylvia’s death. He did not, by all accounts, leave personal diaries that have ever been made public. The general picture comes from the careful, consistent recollections of the people who were close to him and from the few brief public statements he made, in which he spoke about Sylvia in language that was, by the standards of any era, quietly devastating.
He told one interviewer, in a conversation reported in the trade press at the time, that he had been a lucky man for 42 years and that he was now simply no longer a lucky man. That sentence, in his particular, careful voice, said about as much as Ed Sullivan was ever going to say in public about what had happened to him.
In the late summer of 1974, about a year and a half after Sylvia’s death, Ed Sullivan himself became seriously ill. The diagnosis was advanced cancer of the esophagus. By the time it was identified, by the contemporary medical accounts, later confirmed in his obituaries, the disease had progressed to a stage at which meaningful treatment was no longer possible.
The family, on the advice of his doctors, made the decision that has been made by many families in similar situations across human history. They did not tell him. Ed Sullivan, by Betty’s later confirmation in interviews, was never directly told that the illness he was fighting was terminal. He believed, until very near the end, that he was going to recover.
This is, for some viewers, an uncomfortable detail, and we should treat it honestly. The decision to withhold a terminal diagnosis from a dying patient was much more common in 1974 than it is today. It was, in many cases, considered an act of kindness rather than deception. Whether it was the right choice in Ed Sullivan’s specific case is something his family wrestled with at the time, and, by Betty’s later account, continued to think about for many years afterward.
There is no clean answer. There is only the fact that they made the decision they made in the way the medical culture of that moment encouraged them to make it, out of love. Ed himself, by every account from the hospital staff who cared for him in those last weeks, remained, almost to the very end, the careful, polite, slightly old-fashioned Irish gentleman he had always been.
He thanked the nurses. He asked about their families. He apologized, repeatedly, for being any trouble. Edward Vincent Sullivan died on the 13th of October, 1974, at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City. He was 73 years old. Sylvia had been gone for 19 months. The country of two citizens, which had been built across 42 years inside an apartment on Park Avenue, was, with his death, finally and quietly closed.
The funeral was held a few days later at St. Patrick’s Cathedral on 5th Avenue in Midtown, Manhattan. By contemporary press accounts, more than 3,000 people attended. The Cardinal of New York, Terence Cooke, presided over the service. Performers from across decades of American show business sat in the pews. Comedians, singers, dancers, fight managers, retired sports writers, men and women from the theater world who had been booked on the Sullivan stage as unknowns, and who had in many cases become household names because of it.
The pallbearers were chosen from his closest friends. The eulogies were short and careful, and by every account very moving. Ed was buried beside Sylvia in a quiet cemetery in Westchester County, north of New York City, not far, in the strange way these things sometimes work out, from the small town of Port Chester, where 73 years earlier a quiet boy in a crowded house had begun teaching himself how to keep his face still.
In the days and weeks that followed, almost every major newspaper in America published an obituary for him. Most of them tried, in their own ways, to explain what Ed Sullivan had actually been. The thing they kept circling, without ever quite landing on, was the contradiction. He could not sing. He could not dance.
He could not really tell a joke. He stood on a stage for 23 years with his hands folded in front of him and his face almost completely still, and he became one of the most beloved figures in the history of American television. The obituaries reached, again and again, for the same word, decency. Different writers used different forms of it.
Decent, decency, a decent man, the decency of his presence, but the word kept coming back. What had set Ed Sullivan apart, the obituaries kept trying to say, was not talent in any traditional sense. It was something older and harder to name. A certain plain Irish Catholic seriousness, a respect for the work, a respect for the people doing the work, a refusal, week after week, to make the show about himself.
The show itself, by the time he died, had already been off the air for over 3 years. The theater on Broadway where the Beatles had once stood was renamed in 1967 in his honor. It still bears that name today. It is now used for a different program, a late-night program hosted by other people. But on the marquee, in clear letters above Broadway, the name of the slow-talking Irish columnist from Port Chester is still there, every single night.
And here is, perhaps, the part of his story that matters most, the part that is hardest to summarize in any tidy sentence, but that is, in the end, the reason we have spent this much time together with him. Ed Sullivan, in the way he conducted his program, made a quiet decision about who counted as an American performer.
That decision shaped American popular culture for a generation and is still shaping it today. He decided, on his stage, that black performers and white performers stood in the same place, that immigrant comedians and homegrown comedians were introduced with the same care, that an unknown young singer from Mississippi or Memphis or Liverpool deserved the same handshake as a famous Broadway star.
He never gave speeches about any of this. He never wrote essays about it. He just did it, on television, every Sunday night for 23 years in a row. Tens of millions of American families watched him do it, week after week, and absorbed the lesson without ever being told they were being taught one. He was not, as we said earlier, a saint.
He bowed to the political blacklist when it was politically expensive to fight it. He could be stubborn, occasionally vindictive, sometimes wrong about a performer he had decided not to like. He had a real Irish temper, mostly hidden from the public, that the people around him learned to respect. The contradictions are real.
They are part of who he was. A clean version of Ed Sullivan, the version with all the rough edges sanded off, is not the real one and is not worth telling. The real one is a man who got many things right, who got some things wrong, who loved one woman with his entire life, who raised one daughter who adored him, who fought one quiet 30-year war with a man he never directly addressed, and who, at the end of it all, won by the simple method of staying decent, staying steady, and staying himself longer than almost anyone else in his
industry. If you ever find yourself in Midtown Manhattan on Broadway near 53rd Street, look up. The marquee is still there. The name is still in lights. Inside that theater on a Sunday evening in February of 1964, an unmoving man in a dark suit walked out from behind a velvet curtain in front of 728 screaming teenagers and 73 million Americans watching at home and said four short words that handed the future of American popular to four young men from Liverpool.
He said those four words in exactly the same tone he had used to introduce a tap-dancing fireman from Brooklyn on the very first broadcast in 1948. The tone did not change for him. He did not ever treat famous performers as more important than unknown ones. That was, in the end, his real signature.
He believed, by every account from the people who knew him best, that the act on the stage was always more important than the man at the microphone. He believed that the host’s job was to step out, say the name, step back, and get out of the way. He believed that the work, the actual performance, the song, the dance, the joke, the magician’s trick, the prize fighter’s fight, was sacred, and that the announcer’s role was simply to hold the door open and let the work walk through it.
For 23 years, every Sunday night, he held that door open. For 23 years, the most important performers of the 20th century walked through it. And for 42 years, in a quiet apartment on Park Avenue, a small, dark-haired woman named Sylvia held a different door open for him. The door to a country of two citizens, where the mask his mother had taught him to wear in 1908 was finally allowed to come off, and where the slow-talking Irish boy from Port Chester was simply, for a few hours each evening, a husband at a dinner table talking to his wife
about the show. That was Ed Sullivan, the unmoving face on Sunday nights, the quiet kindness behind the stage door, the 30-year silence aimed at one enemy, the 42-year conversation with one wife, the man who introduced almost everyone to almost everyone, and who asked in return only that they do their best work and treat his crew with respect.
He was, by the standards of the world he lived in, a strange host. “Wooden,” the critics called him. “Stiff. Embalmed.” They were not wrong about what they saw on the surface. They were only wrong about what was underneath. Underneath was a boy who had been taught, at age seven, that men in his family did not weep where people could see them and who at age 71 in a small white hospital room beside a woman he had loved for 42 years finally found the only sorrow large enough to break the rule.
The rest of the time he kept his face still folded his hands in front of him walked out from behind the curtain, said the name, and stepped back. For 23 years every Sunday 8:00 CBS and on the marquee above Broadway his name is still in lights tonight.
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